Narcissistic Behaviors You May Face
There are a number of classic narcissistic traits and behaviors that are typical of anybody with NPD. You may see your narcissistic spouse display some of the following behaviors.
- They’re often resistant to changing how they behave, even when it’s largely a part of the issues they experience in their life as a result.
- They’ll blame everyone around them for anything difficult that happens.
- They’re generally very sensitive to even constructive criticism or perceived criticism.
A true narcissist will see any type of disagreement, fight, or tense situation as a personal attack against them. Some of the most common behaviors associated with narcissistic personality disorder include:
Narcissists are extremely manipulative. They’re concerned with getting their way, regardless of the cost or who they may hurt.
Lack of empathy
Narcissists lack empathy. It’s hard for them to understand that the behavior they’re displaying is hurting others.
Intense focus on winning
Narcissists are often so concerned with winning, they can be willing to put their partner in a vulnerable position. This is especially true if they feel like their partner is trying to reason or disagree with them.
Wildly exaggerated or grandiose sense of self-importance
This is more than simply being arrogant or vain. Their grandiose feelings are both unrealistic and unattainable. Narcissists believe they’re too good, too special for anything they perceive as average. They think they can only be truly understood by others who are special like them.
Tendency to live in a fantasy world of delusions
A true narcissist will live in somewhat of a fantasy world. Because their feelings of self-importance aren’t based on reality, they support their self-view with almost a magical sense of thinking. Their disordered sense of reality is based on self-deception. They often show extreme defensiveness and rage towards anyone who challenges them. Note that this is a protective stance narcissists take to protect their unrealistic view of their world and how they are perceived in it.
Overwhelming sense of entitlement
Narcissists believe they are special, and they expect to be treated as such by everyone around them. They feel like they should get whatever they want, regardless of what their demands are. Additionally, they have high expectations that those around them will reward them. If they’re denied anything, their immediate reaction will likely be outrage due to narcissistic tendencies.
Craving near-constant admiration and complementary praise
Narcissists need constant admiration, praise, and reward. They surround themselves with people who are willing to give it to them. Relationships tend to be extremely one-sided, with the narcissist demanding all the attention and giving very little, if any, in return. Occasional compliments will not satisfy the narcissist.
Often intimidates and bullies others
A narcissist frequently puts others down and intimidates people around them as a defense mechanism. It’s the only way they can maintain the sense of power they crave. They don’t know how to healthily interact with anyone or anything that challenges or threatens their authority and sense of self-importance. It’s important to note that these challenges are generally self-perceived, and typically not based on reality. To counteract them, the narcissist will attack, bully, name-call, and threaten.
Exploits others around them (without shame, guilt, or remorse)
As a result of a narcissist’s deep lack of empathy, they aren’t able to identify with the feelings of the people around them. They’ll quickly, and without any regret or remorse for their actions, use people to their advantage. These actions can be intentional, but narcissists are often blatantly oblivious of how detrimental their behavior can be.