“There are many people through out the world to criticize children, but only parents are to love, to cherish. Children are the safest only to their parents”….
………Swagata (Ghosh) Maity
Every parents in the world wants their child to be the best, to be established, to be healthy, to have a good education, to be a real person. Parents start dreaming after the birth of a child. As the child grew older, the parents impose that dream on the child. If the child does not follow the path of the dream developed by the parents, they try to force to follow up. This has become the meaning of parenting in our society.
Parenting doesn’t mean that. Parenting means raising a child from infancy to adulthood, helping the child’s physical, mental, social and intellectual development.
Now I come straight to the point where we, as parents make mistakes and how we can easily guide them to the correct way and build a perfect, bright children.
Answer the question:- Most parents tell their child ‘Don’t do this, don’t do that’. Listening to these, the question arises in the mind of the child, ‘What should I do then?’ We did not answer this wonderful question of his childhood, on the contrary we show him anger, we try to keep him down. Try to answer all the questions of the child which will help him to fulfill his thirst of knowledge properly.
The children is not your property:- Children only come through you, not from you. Most parents think of their child as their own property or future investment. The behavior of the parents towards the child continues as usual. If the child is not on the path tied by the parents, he will be scolded and even beaten. Instead of teaching the child to walk, we determine the way of life, we try to change the way of his or her life. Discipline is definitely needed but if there is no harmony between discipline and love then it becomes rule.
Never compare child with any other:- Every child is individual. Raise his/ her capacity. Don’t try to mold them. Almost every parent tries to put their child in some mold. Some parents wants their child to be like them and some parents want their child to be like some ideal person or they compare him with another child. Such comparisons create jealousy, ego in the child’s mind, can make them superior or inferior.
Criticism:- Never criticise or use any negative statements to your child. Even you have to avoid any negative thoughts to him/her. ‘My child is naughty, very slow, the child is lazy’ etc. Never use this kind of negative sentences. It builds his identity, his level.