Your wedding day is a beautiful time, a full-tilt celebration of your and your loved one’s commitment and passion for one another.
However, in the mad rush of gorgeous gowns, lavish venues, and Kimberfire rings, it’s easy to miss the point of the spectacle. After all, to quote the salesman, Zig Ziglar:
“Many people spend more time in planning the wedding than they do in planning the marriage”.
A Spouse is For Life – not just for Christmas
Of course, a wedding should be a joyful and momentous occasion. However, it can be easy to lose sight of the full seriousness of a committed, long-term relationship. Marriage takes constant work – from both partners – through thick and thin.
In the words of Christian writer Dave Meurer:
“A great marriage is not when the ‘perfect couple’ comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.”
The process of learning to enjoy one another’s differences happens with time; sometimes, though, it needs a lot of care and attention. Dave Meurer is a husband, and father of two boys; he writes witty books on child-rearing and relationships.
His ideas echo those of sadistic humorist David Sedaris. His book Dress Your Family In Corduroy and Denim was a collection of autobiographical essays. Here, he rips apart the inner workings of daily life – relationships and friendships – with his ferociously dry comedy:
“Real love amounts to withholding the truth, even when you’re offered the perfect opportunity to hurt someone’s feelings.”
A day as important as your wedding can come with some serious anxiety and pressure. It’s incredibly easy to forget that the day is to celebrate you and your partner alone.
Beauty standards can leave you anxious about your dress and your body. Just as the day is about celebrating your relationship, same some love for yourself.
Chrissy King’s advice on this self-esteem anxiety is golden:
“The reality is that our bodies are constantly changing, and they will never remain exactly the same. If we base our self-worth on something as ever-changing as our bodies, we will forever be on the emotional roller coaster of body obsession and shame.”
But wedding days can be exhausting; if you can’t muster up all the energy required to adore yourself in that dress, then perhaps you can take a longer-term view from Agatha Christie:
“Every woman should marry an archaeologist – she grows increasingly attractive to him as she ages”.
Your wedding day is a beautiful day to celebrate the love for your partner.
To conclude with a comprehensive, thoughtful piece from politician Kay Coles James:
“The moment you know that this is the person with whom you want to spend the rest of your life, you should start the engagement process. Once you know this, the nature of the relationship changes… If you’re considering getting engaged, write out the sentence ‘Staying married is hard work’ fifty times. Though I say this with some humor, I think these points bear repeating: Don’t underestimate the work involved but don’t panic either.”